Celebrating singleness--

Well...you probably think this will be another blog about...

"Celebrate being single.."

"God is going to use you in your singleness!"

"You should be happy there's no man in your life to annoy you."

And while maybe those above statements are true...that doesn't mean those statements make single ladies feel better about being single. I've heard those statements a lot when I've been a single woman, especially after a tough break up with a guy who, only if someone hadn't basically slapped me across the face and told me I was crazy--I easily would've married the guy, and to be honest would've had a pretty miserable life. THANK GOD because it took me awhile to realize that I was selling my self short. That even though ending that relationship hurt, God was saving me a lot of pain, and he had someone better in mind. Now there is a guy who is the love of my life, I could not be more happy that I get to be his wife one day, the mother of his children.This is the guy who constantly holds me accountable to my relationship with Christ, and desires to be more like Christ himself, he has the heart of a servant, and when were together my gut hurts because he makes me laugh so much. The only problem is....

I haven't met him yet.

I am completely and almost desperately single, and besides going and throwing myself at guys to try and find the one who fits all the qualities above (Which I don't want to do) I can't do anything about it except realize that right in this very moment....

The creator of the universe pursues me daily, loves me, and always will love me more than my future husband does. 

This is why I celebrate my singleness, because at least according to me, because Christ is my first love, I already have everything I could possibly need. This doesn't mean that I don't get sad, mad, jealous, and maybe even a little bit angry...that It feels as if i'm the only single college girl left not only at my church, but my own school. I have to check myself though...I have to remember that pouting isn't going to make God want to give me my future husband any faster...in fact, it probably means he's going to hold it off for awhile. The statement, "God is going to use you in your singleness.." is so true, because he does. He uses this time of singleness to mature, and prepare you for your man, and he also uses it to give you ministry opportunities that if you had a boyfriend, lets face it, you wouldn't be doing it because it takes A LOT of time. That's not to say couples aren't actively involved in ministry because I know many couples who pour their hearts into ministry and its what I want my husband and I to do later in life.

I feel blessed to being able to mature in God's word, and in my life, and ministry through my singleness. It is always a joy to be able to further God's kingdom.

So ladies, I know...seriously I really know.

It kinda is not fun sometimes seeing all your friends getting in relationships, and getting married, maybe even having children.

But i'm telling you, our patience is going to pay off, I feel it. I know that God has someone so incredible in mind for me. I know he has someone incredible in mind for you and, instead of trying to make it all work out for myself...I think maybe I'll let God work out all the kinks, because I think he probably is a lot better at all of this stuff.

Lets celebrate being single, and lets celebrate being single together! (Raises glass of sparkling grape juice ;D)

FOR THE RIGHT REASONS: A College Freshman's view on Dating

   FOR THE RIGHT REASONS: A College Freshman's view on Dating 

• -Don't date for fun, because its not fun, it's a disaster. Date to marry.
• Date someone because, He is a man after God's heart. 
• -Date someone because, you've prayed about him.Chances are if you're not praying about him you're afraid God won't approve. God cares about relationships too. 
• -Date someone because, You feel good about talking about him to your mom, and especially Dad. (Remember ladies, he'll be giving you away at the wedding, his approval is important.)
• -Date someone because, he's sweet to your friends, if they're going to be around him it's good not to have drama.
• -Date someone because, he encourages you. Not to do bad things, but to live a godly life. 
• -Date someone because, he makes you want to try things you normally wouldn't try. He makes you daring and fearless.
• -Date someone because, he's good and gentle with kids. 
• -Date someone because, he's gentle with you, and willing to take care of you when you're sick or hurt. 
• -Date someone because, he is Godly and serves God whenever he gets the chance to. 
• -Date someone because, he inspires you to be a godly woman. 
• -Date someone because,he gets along with your siblings. 
• -Date someone because, he listens to and comforts you. 
• -Date someone because, you feel a God given connection with him.
• -Date someone because, he's done everything above and makes you happy.Your happiness is important, not to be selfish though. God wants you to be happy.I'm sure if God gave him to you, you'll feel pretty happy being with him.  

I'm not married. Nor did I get a ring by spring. But I do wear a purity ring on my left ring finger. A reminder that i'm God's way before i'm his. You might think differently but when it comes to a relationship I want to date the person that God has put in my life for me to marry. I'm willing to wait for him because it's not time wasted. Waiting is the important part because you allow God to work on you and make you more mature. He prepares the way for your future hubby. So wait patiently ladies, because I'm sure who God has for you is way better than you have planned. 

Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord! -Psalm 27:14